Let us give John Gray his due. He speaks as he finds, that is all. The Quaker academic and writer Wolf Mendl once spoke in the 1974 ‘Swarthmore lecture’ of the contrast between two types of people whom he called ‘prophets’ and ‘reconcilers’. John Gray is clearly a prophet, in the Old Testament sense – pinning down with a fierce and analytical eye the shortcomings of his hearers and warning them in no uncertain terms exactly where they are falling down on the job of being human. The question this raises is: what response can we make to this challenge? Can we find a better way?